Magic, In reference to your posting: "The ladies all spoke, and one woman reminded me about raising the bar and how we allow and push the bar of how low and what we are willing & able to accept. <<< why do I keep doing this?" Why do you continue doing this? Only you can answer that question...but you must dig deep before answering it.
"NO.. I am pushing forward on getting our finances settled. I just don't know who to finalize it with.... do I see a business lawyer or family lawyer? Since this is a mutual agreement, do I need to bother with independent lawyers or can we just take it to one lawyer to be signed?" Magic, we've had many discussions about this situation and wouldn't you think it would be advisable to seek the advice of a "business" lawyer since this is not a personal issue, i.e., like separation/marriage, etc.? Wouldn't it be to your benefit to seek out a consultation first and see what the lawyer advises you concerning whether or not he/she would take this on and work with the both of you on this?
So, how do you feel now that you are beginning to see him w/o the rose colored glasses on your nose? You do realize that only you can decide when you've had enough and are willing to let him go. Right now, he drops phrases to keep you on the line. What do you want? Do you want to remain on the hook or do you want to let go and discover a new world out there? After all, if you let go, live your life to the fullest and actually enjoy your life, you may just find that he's not the only fish in the sea and may meet up w/some wonderful people. Who knows, that lonely, selfish old fish, just might wise up and realize that you are the catch of the day and come swimming right back to you want to commit. The past is the past, today is a gift called the present and the future, well...let's just say, it can be full of surprises, but ultimately we can help it along by being positive, confident and happy.
What does Magic want?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
