I want to be clear that I'm not a vet here. You receive such wonderful advice. There is one thing that jumps out to me about your sitch. Until you truly decide to let go ( and I mean genuinely let go), nothing will change. You will remain stuck. And stuck is not where anyone can truly live.
Just my opinion.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer