maybe some posters in the piecing section will have some insight too...
we all get angry and hurt over things and you are right...marriage (even without reconciliation as an aspect) is a dance...
sometimes you give, sometimes you take
there has to be a balance
You should not be giving up everything but, realistically you may have to give up something
I am a believer in lists
list the things you love (you might even add what it does for you) then check the things you are unwilling to give up
I used to love puttering with my plants and my house was full of them and pots and pots and pots in all the rental homes I owned. I realized I was escaping through gardening.
when I didn't need to escape any more, I didn't NEED that gardening...
