congrats on your sons graduation, that is awesome!! I'm curious, what is the required work that one does when he wants to come home? I'm no where near this in my sitch but was curious. I mean if he asks to come home, you say yes if x and y needs are met? or do you say no? It gets so complicated not wanting them to run back in the tunnel or come home before they're "done". It feels like you want to do everything right/perfect to make sure that you're not messing up any chances of reconnecting. I feel like I have to do or say just the right things in any communication- not too much of this, not too little of that. It is like a recipe and you want it to come out just right. Then I wonder if that is still being over controlling. What actions do you look for?
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
