Went to anger mgmt class yesterday. The counselor I was is 2 years older than me, was divorced with a young kid and has been through my struggles that I am dealing with. She said "I know you probably understand counselors don't usually share stories, but I was in your situation a few years ago...so I'm going to share."
I felt like she was telling my life story. She also told me what she thinks I could do differently both anger management wise and in my marriage to help things. Things she didn't see when she was going through it. I was pretty happy about that.
After my anger mgmt session, went out and saw some friends I ride horses with. They have horses they let me ride. I was going to buy one of theirs, but H said no and then I got pregnant. I've had horses my entire life. I've been riding 20+ years. I didn't think it was fair for H to deny me that. We could afford it. But I digress. They always make me happy. I'm going to start seeing them again at least every Tuesday and possibly Thursdays, plus every other weekend when H has the kidlet. I went home in a jovial mood.
I took a chance and asked H if he wanted to watch a movie later, as I was going to pick one up at a Redbox. He said sure. I snagged a couple, as there was one he didn't want to watch that I will watch tonight by myself while he is working late.
Got home, and H is chatty cathy. Didn't ask me where I was or had been, but asked me how my day was. I told him, then asked how his was going. He told me all about his day. Shared some funny stories, and we talked while making ourselves an easy dinner. Went upstairs to watch the movie. It was so so, but the company was still enjoyable. H had even washed the bottles! I told him I really appreciated it, as it was one less thing for me to do in the morning to get the kidlet ready to go to the neighbor's house. I had also asked him to pick up a pallet from work, as there is landscaping stone being delivered today, and I didn't want the driveway getting chipped up when they dumped it. He actually brought one home! I told him thanks, and I really appreciated it as I couldn't get more than 2 from my job.
Leaving this AM, H is again chatty cathy, and as I was backing out, stopped me and reminded me to put the pallets in the back of my truck on the driveway.
The one thing I did notice last night in conversation: when initially asked about his job H said "eh, it's ok I guess." I asked him to elaborate as I didn't understand. "It's just the same stuff day in and day out."
Now this is a job H brags about to everyone, and tells them how much he loves it. I'm not sure what to think about it. I think he wants to be creative, and own his own business - just doesn't know how to go about it. At one point, he wanted to build these survivalist trailers...now, while I don't think it would be a very profitable business, it would give him something to do. I feel like he's bored with being in sales as his customers don't change very often, they just change what they purchase. H's job is 6 figures a year, but last night - he really just didn't seem all that excited about it.
H is also a serial job hopper, never having kept a job more than 2 years. Prior to the 2 year stint, 8 months was the max he held on to any job.
Not sure what to think about that. Thoughts?
I did text him this morning asking him if his attorney has formally withdrawn from the case yet, as my L has to file an answer this week and needs to copy her if she has not. H has said she still hasn't called him back after his email last week. He blind CC'd me on that e-mail, so I did see where he told her he no longer needs her services.
No clue if he is moving out this weekend, end of the month etc. I haven't brought it up. Tonight stone is delivered and he works late so I have the kidlet to myself, tomorrow is divorce support group and hot yoga. Friday a friend is coming over and she and I are putting the landscape stones on as much of the flower beds as we can before dark. Saturday AM is a bike ride and breakfast with a military friend, afternoon is horseback riding, PM is finishing backsplash. Sunday - go see horse friends again, maybe shoot some coyotes that are killing their chickens.
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
