Yes, there s a difference between frugal and control.

I will spend 30min or $10 on jeans if I can. I will not spend 2days wages. It's too tough on the pay check. Most people wouldn't know frugal if it bit them.

Life s about choices. Jeans that cost $10 do the same job as those that cost $200. If I buy those that cost $200 I might have to choose to not buy food or pay bills. If I buy $10 ones it might mean I can afford an os trip to see relatives, something which my co workers on more $ can't afford.

I am I feel more creative with what I spend and how I budget. Thus I get different choices. If your wife knew why you were spending in a particular way and was involved in the planning then that would also change the dynamic to a degree as well.

M 46 h54
Both married before
T 11y
Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads!
Ms 18 hs 26