I can say its going to take longer then we want for either our spouses to decide they want to work on M. And we have to know that whatever we do we have to make the changes we know we need to make and make them to make ourselves better, and hope in turn this makes our M better.
But I think you have to wait for spouse to really say they want to make M better, to work on R and they have to really mean it.
TIME,,,I'm telling you you may need to give it more time to see if the spouse is really rethinking things and put forth effort to work on M.
I need to take the same advice, probably did not happen overnight and will not be repaired overnight.
AND we all have to be prepared totally that the M is really over.
GAL really helps me, not pursuing and not talking about M to my H really helps.
Hang in there, keep working on GAL. Take this time to also see if you want this M while your W is saying she does not.
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
