Yes, it is logical that I stay detached, but I thought the whole idea of LRT and 180 is to get the spouse to rethink and 'turn around'. She hasn't mentioned D to me at all since week 1, but for the last 3 weeks various others were told progressively.
Here is my timeline to date:
Week 1: D bomb dropped, love you like a friend, its me not you. (I spend the entire week going crazy and doing the wrong things)
Week 2: Find DB, complete GAL, 180 and detach. Workout, new clothes, cologne .. the works. She notices, but I don't acknowledge her comments
Week 3: Continue with ^^^^above^^^^, skip a family event (inlaws) start requesting $$$$ to split the bills in half. Start looking at new places to live. She starts softening up, gives me hugs a few times, starts calling me by my nickname (term of endearment). I respond nicely, but never with honey, love, sweetie ect ect.
Week 4: Continue with above, also skipping a huge family event(s) this weekend. She cuddled in bed Tues am...
So ... how do i cut her off more? Should I tell her straight out ' you cannot act like this unless we reconsider and go to counseling?'
Shouldn't I encourage this good behavior?
Me: 43, W:42 M: 11 years T: 17 years Step S:22 Separated: 5/08/10 (came back 8 months later) Bomb Dropped: 04/12/14
