No reason to be embarrassed. You're losing a part of you, so to me it's understandable how you're feeling. I'm going through the same thing. Mine told me to sign the papers when i'm ready but she keeps saying stuff like 'you'll never be ready'. It's a shock to see our spouses go from loving and caring to this bitter person that we don't know.
I too am seeing a counselor. It started off as marriage counseling together but now I'm going alone, at his recommendation. But it does help a lot.
Me 38 Her 38 Daughter 7 Married 11 Together 16 BD 3/21/14 Moved out 3/8/15 D final 3/11/15