Hey GG! Good to hear from you. You sound well and on solid ground with your life! If you are like me it was at times a rocky journey, but once you finally get over the past and to the other side you realize just how happy you are and wonder what the heck took me so long!
More power to your ex. I for one cannot imagine starting the kid thing over again. I'm less than 3 short years away from empty nester status. I love my kids and will miss having them around on an almost daily basis, but I also appreciate "my time" and am much more ready for the next phase of my life than I would be ready to welcome a new born into this world (unless of course it's a grand child - then bring it on!)
Had a great extended weekend which began Thursday afternoon meeting ADINVA for a couple of drinks in DC. Had a great time getting to know her and hope we can get together again sooner rather than later.
Friday I had new windows put in my entire house. Wow what a huge difference it has made in the exterior appeal and the reduction of noise inside. Not to mention the soon to come reduced utility bills!
Saturday headed over to Annapolis to spend the evening and night with good friends. Went to an authentic German restaurant and then finished the evening drinking some fine scotch out on their new patio.
Sunday's weather here in DC was absolutely to die for! It was a beautiful sunny 82 degree day. I took advantage of it doing some yard work and of course calling my wonderful mother to wish her a happy Mother's Day.
After a great walk through my neighborhood I spent the evening sitting outside appreciating how nice it was to have a fairly stress free life - at least in regards to not dealing with the ex anymore on a daily basis. I've been on my own now for almost 5 years and each year I get a bit more of my "happy" back!
Happy belated Mother's Day to all of you Mom's on the board here. I hope you all had a great weekend too!
Whew. Survived a family wedding that included a unholy clash with my stepmother just 30 minutes before the wedding ceremony started. Checking all of my fingers...still there..none were cut off in the middle of the night.
Barb, caught up a bit on your sitch. Glad to read that you're doing okay with the latest health scare. Damn! Time for Florida, honey.
Bets, what you need is a big dart fired from a dart gun from Jack Hanna's collection right into your a$$ so you'll be so chillin' that H wouldn't know what's up and what's down when you do talk with him about your D17.
GG, it's good to hear that you're A-Ok about EX. For the first time in 10 years, I have discovered that magic pill too...or rather it snuck up on me without me noticing it. This is the FIRST time ever that I forgot Ms. Wonka's BD and didn't text her at all. No pain, no sadness, no nothing. Just nothingness. Heh...so that's how detachment hit me in the face and said "hello, Wonka!" And about time too!
BA, hey...how's things with your new GF? I miss living through you vicariously. I gave up on the Enquirer a loooong time ago. So it falls on you to feed me 'that' Enquirey fix.
BA, hey...how's things with your new GF? I miss living through you vicariously. I gave up on the Enquirer a loooong time ago. So it falls on you to feed me 'that' Enquirey fix.
Welcome back Wonka!! Everything is going well with the new GF. She is a real kind and sweet woman who really cares for me. I'm happy that the craziness of Match.com is behind me.
I don't have an active account on match. I went to the site for some reason and now I have an email. I am not even looking at anyone. I wonder if it is worth it to read an email.
I also now feel like crud. I got it from d15. However, I have to get better, graduation for s18 is this weekend.!
Ideas about match? I don't want to be rude but really for one email. I can't decide.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Welcome back, Wonka! And good to see everyone - GG, NG, BA (I'm thinking I need a 2 letter acronym now).
I've been MIA lately myself, because I have 3 full time jobs right now: parenting, work and managing the estate. I'm exhausted and stressed and I guess it's bad enough that D17's neurologist begged me to get back into IC yesterday. So I'm doing it.
So thanks to the post about hugging your demons. I'm gonna get intimate with mine now. And I expect it to hurt.
On top of all that, my cousin called yesterday to give me some info about my lawless, junkie brother that she got from her cop brother. Needless to say, it didn't make me happy, although it's finally good to actually know where things are legally out in VA. I can only hope that the Fairfax County circuit court judge comes down hard on him. It will his only chance at getting clean. He's used up all his free passes, and it's now time to do some hard time.
And I wonder why I'm not in a good place to date???
Anyway, the worst of the estate stuff is behind me. Yesterday, it didn't feel that way. The front door handle/locking mechanism broke, someone from the estate sale backed up on the lawn to load furniture and killed a bunch of grass (replacing today with sod) and one of the back sprinkler heads broke, providing the neighborhood with a free mini geyser. Who needs Yellowstone???
The house is on the market as of yesterday, and official showings will begin Friday. That gives me enough time to get the carpets stretched and cleaned - hopefully today. Once it sells, then almost all of my work will be done. I keep trying to get D20 to go over there with me, and she just won't. I guess she'll have to grieve in her own way on her own schedule. And I'll be there for her when the fit hits the shan.
I guess all the stress has me grinding my teeth. I now have a hideous case of TMJ. My dear dentist fit me for an apparatus last week, and I'm doing what he's prescribed to help diminish the pain. It's getting better. Thank goodness for muscle relaxers, ibuprofen and heat.
And if all that wasn't enough, I'm just starting the work necessary to be D17's guardian. It's kind of daunting, but I'm going to eat that elephant one bite at a time. Right now, I'm taking 6 weeks of classes at the ARC to learn all about the transition. Class is every Wednesday night for 2 hours, and tonight is #2. It's been helpful.
I guess it's a good thing that work hasn't been stressful. Thank God for small favors.
So now I'll wish everyone well and schedule an appointment with an IC. I've been wanting to clear my head for awhile now, so it's a good thing.
That's all the news fit for print here in Denver. Hope everyone is healthy and happy!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Wow, a lot on your plate Betsey! Hang in there and do what you gotta do...this too shall pass. Really it will. Sometimes I go to an IC when I've got stuff in my head. It's good to throw things out to someone who's outside of your life and has no stake in it. I like to have someone else validate that my cheese has not slipped off my cracker lol! Take care.
I'm thinking of you. Just remember - one foot in front of the other, one step at a time. My life USED to be like this. All the time. I survived with my TO DO LIST. Don't even have one anymore (maybe I should).
Try to aim for some long term goals. Such as less TO DO & more downtime. I hope you can achieve a better balance when you knock some big things out of the way.
hi betsey, sorry that all of this is swirling around you at once.. you have such an amazing attitude but even with that, it must seem like enough is enough... i love what bard said about one foot in front of the other... and i hope that you have some good supportive friends to lean on a bit.. you seem like such a giving caring person... hope you let others do the same for you.. (((((((((((((((betsey))))))))))
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
So I'm doing it.