After 9 years, bf in quarter life crisis?

[Pluto]

At the moment I'm in no contact. Working, trying not to think about it, because whatever his decision, there's nothing I can do to influence it. I keep cycling between rage, despair, hope, and strange moments of calm, like now, when I realize it's out of my hands. Once he makes up his mind, we'll take it from there... still doesn't prevent me from obsessing tho!

My experience has taught me while we'd love to crawl inside their heads and figure out what they're thinking and why they're doing what they're doing... you can drive yourself crazy.

I'm an analytical, logic-driven thinker... so it has been especially hard on me. The sooner you can let go and start GAL and taking care of yourself, the better. It's easier said than done, I know, but it helps.

Sounds like you're working down that path.

The real question, back to your first question..

Now, I have two options. Either he's having a... not quite MLC, more like a Quarter-Life crisis with 'omg I'm growing up what am I doing with my life'.

Does either scenario change how you feel about him and whether you want to work to save the R? Probably not.