What if she never reaches out to me again? Is it possible that the moment she walked out the door that that would be the last time I would ever see her?
I notice in almost everyone's sitchs, there is at least some contact regarding kids, mortgages etc. I have nothing like that in my sitch (Both of our kids are from previous relationships).
If I am absolutely dark for months on end, how will she see any of the things I am working at changing?
I had this concern as well. The changes you're making or contemplating right now will be because you want to do it for her, to win her back. But truly look at yourself, don't just change for her. What changes do you want to make to be a better person? Have you wanted to volunteer but never did? Get more involved at church? Go to al-anon to understand how to support her? Improve financially? Improve physically? What are YOUR goals, not your plan to win her back. Divorce busting is sometimes just a byproduct of your overall strategy, but what you're really trying to get out of this process that you've been thrust into is to find yourself again and be better than before.
It looks like you were married before, or at least had another relationship with kids from that one. What happened there? Were some of the same issues what you've encountered now? Take an inventory of the parallels between your relationships. What do you do wrong consistently in your relationships that you'd like to alter or change moving forward?
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
