In my case I had to modify the communications a bit. Because my tendency before BD was not to be in touch all day, and he was more the check-in type, I quickly realized that in MY sitch going dim backfired. He assumed I was angry, hated him, and he avoided contacting me at all.
For us, it worked better when touched base occasionally about simple things, very upbeat, no pressure, low key and NO EXPECTATIONS.
Just "I'll be ready to clean stalls whenever you get here. See you then!" sort of thing. It never requires a response, nor anything about the R. Just like a neighbor who was dropping off a cup of sugar...
Other people have had more success with being more dark/dim.
It's all about monitoring and doing what works best for you.
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
