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[GoatGal]

One thing I should add is that for a long time I had a really hard time being around my H. He could see everything written on my face and it made it harder for him.

Part of my detaching was sort of being off by myself and only being around him when I could control my emotions. Sometimes, no matter what I did, and even now, he'll say or do something and I'll tear up. So far I've been able to link that to just the "situation being difficult" while trying not to place blame or ask for reassurance. I usually end up with, "This is tough for both of us, but we'll be OK." and "I appreciate everything you've done to make this easier on me." and then I get the heck out of there!