Wow. I relate. I was told, "You're like a deer in the head lights. Your spouse left a long time ago (planned it out) and now you're just finding out and in shock." This is true. Try to do and not do what is on Sandi's list and what people tell you. I at least was blessed to keep my sanity through reading books, DB coaching, etc. Coaching does help. I found out after the third session I wasn't able to DB with my spouse. (Some people aren't interested in trying and are too sick) I worked on me and well, if need be I'll use these skills with all people I relate with today and in the future. I do feel blessed. I hope you can DB and keep your family together. But, if not you'll at least get healthy for yourself and your kids.
