Continue GAL, but because he has some major insecurities with us and how our R has been - RIGHT NOW, to prevent escalation, avoid coed things. That's not to say in the future I won't enjoy them, but at this time, avoid them. She was my DB coach a couple years ago, so she knows more of a background on the sitch.
Continue to include him in things if he asks, but do not volunteer the info. If he wants to hang out, do it with the hopeful thought it might lead to hanging out again. Walk the thin line between telling him what's going on an appearing mysterious. See how that works for a week or two, then reevaluate.
She didn't seem worried about him moving. Hell, I don't even know if he is or not at this point.
Continue with the control of anger. Don't let him push buttons. If he does, do lots of self talk. He's probably really confused right now, and doesn't know what he wants.
As far as communicating finances on what he will need to pay me - if it can wait, wait. That seems to be a hot issue with him right now, so if it can be put off or done via some other medium (text, e-mail, something less threatening) then do so.
It's good that I am making him "man up" per se and take on the responsibility of paying his own bills and taking care of his daughter. Continue to do this, as one of my goals is to get him to be more responsible, and able to stand on his own two feet without relying heavily on me to "mother."
Goals until next time: don't let him push buttons. Continue to GAL, but try to avoid coed situations for the time being. Ignore hurtful things, as he probably doesn't mean them.
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
