H and his mother have an interesting dynamic. His mother is the scum of the earth. She divorced H's dad because he didn't make enough. Started running around in circles with bankers, CPA's etc. Married a really rich guy 20 years older than she was. Got enough $$ out of him, and started hiding things in boxes in a spare closet he never used. I'm talking soap, towels, dishes etc. Just up and left one day. JUST LIKE H DID. Didn't tell the guy, just filed and left.
His mother and I have NEVER gotten along. We had a miscommunication issue (on my end, I apologized profusely) and right after that, she told me if I wasn't with her son, she'd never have anything to do with me. Holidays - she would ignore me to the point we'd just leave the family get together because she was being that way.
Well, after she found out I was pregnant, ALL OF A SUDDEN she wants to be nice, friendly. But it's because she wanted something - to see her first grandchild. I refused. I said until she apologized profusely, she wouldn't be within earshot of my child. She would apologize, but then say she's not sure what she is apologizing for. So to date, my kiddo is almost a year old and she has not seen her.
That said, H had told me she WOULD see her, and he would make sure of it. I said over my dead body. This is the woman who treated her sons as pawns in her chess games, called them a**holes when they were under 10, etc. etc. There's no way that woman is getting around my daughter.
Well H continued to send her pictures, talk to her etc. to my chagrin. But he says he doesn't like her and wants nothing to do with her. The thing that [censored], is he DOES, and he is JUST. LIKE. her in a lot of ways. When he doesn't like someone or they hurt him, he treats them like dirt. There are some people that he had just met that he treats like they are inferior. He uses people. There are times he's just not a good person.
He admitted the other day, that he told his L his mother is a majority of the reason we argue, and a majority of the reason this M has fallen apart. The reason he told her is because I said, that in our agreement, until my kid is 18, his mother will not be allowed anywhere near her. He agreed to this. He told her that on Friday, and she's refused to speak to him since then.
Anyhow, that's a big part of the sitch I think I omitted, though not for any reason other than I just started comparing the similarities between he and his mother.
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
