YOU do NOT need to move out of the house. You need to stand strong and not let HER decision disrupt your life....
DO NOT respond to every whim that she has, and please remember this...
You are not gonna talk your way out of something that you acted your way into
The rules that are posted are more for you than they are for the relationship right now...
Keep in mind, that this Woman is already emotionally detached from you at this point...
And the more that you react emotionally, the more that she is holding the puppet strings on you.
You need to work through these emotions when you aren't around her, like you did taking the walk. Just don't carry that home with you, and expect her to react from her emotions with you...
The reaction that you got from her, was more than likely guilt for what she is doing, not because she wants to change things. And the going back to detachment, means that she felt that you were back to being stronger (and not on that emotional ledge), so she is detaching herself once again.
You really need to back away, and realize that the Marriage that you once had, is dead and gone. Anything that could (and can) happen down the road, will be a NEW relationship, that only slightly resembles the old one.
Like I said earlier...don't ring any bells that can't be un-rung...
Don't ask for things that you really do not want...
And don't ask any questions that you do not want the answers to....
Nothing changed overnight with this, and nothing will resolve overnight....
Step back, deep breaths, and focus on something for you today....
I will be back later....
Also, you need to read DB and DR, and you can also read other threads, and the archives. There is a TON of information in there....
