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[rsl1034]

Update even though the whole sitch is yet to be pieced together.
Last post I said I would ask her to leave the house since she had offered... well I kinda did the opposite. That night I took a walk after making the family dinner and doing the clean up as I usually do on my days off , I walked and I cried and mourned and felt sorry for myself. I felt sorry for us; me ,her , our son and our life together that was suddenly in critical condition.
I hadn't and still haven't gotten through DR or DB , so being a "fixer" I took it in my mind to try one last appeal with logic and a smattering of emotional appeal. I asked that she come and discuss the whole situation, calm sober and respectful. Problem is I did most of the talking and got little in the way of answers. As you could have told me I got nothing back, not even acknowledgment that anything I said, she even heard. Typically she ended it by running away back to work.
God , she can withdraw ,she holds EVERYTHING so deep inside. She has all of the tendencies of the typical WAW. She is the only thing that matters to her at this point, she is willing to bail on the M, her son and she stands to end up on the short end of the financial stick as well.
I can't believe that she can just turn it off and project it on me the way she does.
I don't even recognize her at this point.
But here's the thing; talk was Friday ,that night she plays nice, in that we talk an gs interact. The next day is even more friendly, she asks me to do the calipers to measure body fat ,and wants advice on workouts and diet. WTF ?
Today uncomfortable glances and fake family togetherness. She is eating cake all over at the same time. My thinking is that I give her the option that she proposed with my conditions. Right now it's too easy for her.
I came to acceptance on my walk that she has issues that I can't help her with. No badly how much I want to. She is so deep in denial ,and is projecting everything on me that I won't take it. Right up until the moment I said is there anything you want to tell me about ...? We were best friends and lovey dove ,up until that minute! Now it's like I'm the freaking Antichrist.
So my offer would take the high ground, and naturally I would listen to a counter offer.
So anyone with a 24th that wants to give their 2 cents worth let me have it in the next 12 hours.