Oh drat. H did help out with Mother's Day and I'm not very nice assuming he didn't. We are talking about teenage boys, it would be too much to expect.
H showed up at the lacrosse game so I asked him. I said, I got nice flowers for Mother's day, did you have something to do with that? He said yes and that he gave S16 the money. So I thanked him and said it was nice.
I hate it when he's nice. It doesn't jibe with how I prefer to see him currently. He's cordial and distant and a bit of a jerk, unattractive and argumentative, but he did get the kids to do Mother's Day at least.
I hate it when he comes to the games too, because my friends don't sit with us and I feel obligated to sit next to him away from my friends, and we don't talk, and I feel like I'm doing something nice to sit with him but that I don't really want to be doing it. But it beats the alternative of not sitting near him and then feeling like a jerk. I have a lot more fun when he's not there, but it is good for S16 for him to be there and for me to not make it unpleasant for him.
But I don't make much conversation because I've realized if I don't go to that effort, then there is no conversation because he is completed disconnected and emotionally withdrawn from me. And making up for that is no longer my job.
Anyway, it was a good game, we won before the rain set in, and he showed up which is a positive for S16.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
