I just read your threads and I will say, you have tenacity. You just keep journaling with very little feedback.
LOL, yeah... figured the writing was therapeutic whether I got feedback or not...
Originally Posted By: labug
I'm curious about the issue around friends coming to the house and you going places. You write in very general terms about your W's complaints and then drop in suggestions that you didn't like people coming to the house and you don't like to go out. Is that true and if so why? Can you change that and make it stick?
You haven't been at this very long and you both apparently backslid to bring you to this place so bandaid 180s wouldn't be a good thing.
What's up with that?
More to come regarding this, but I think the short answer is we both had some unaddressed issues (her, codependency; me, self-esteem/depression...maybe some passive-aggressive tendencies in there too). We both decided to start IC to deal with that stuff.
I don't want to be over-confident...or jinx myself, but speaking for myself I've made huge strides regarding going out/having people over, and have really been enjoying both. I don't know...somewhere along the line I forgot how much I enjoy other people's company...and perhaps just as--if not more--important, how much they enjoy mine.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
