I'm sorry you are hurting so much right now. It is not easy to gp through this. But it sounds like she has a lot to work on--- and you as well. Is it possible that she is making the right choice for herself right now? Is it possible it is for the best for both of you that you don't enter a marriage together right now? You both have children. I'd think in that case you'd want to be especially cautious not to rush into a marriage.
What is so bad about taking some time to work on your own personal issues before you decide whether to move forward together or not?
(Perhaps part of "divorce busting" is not rushing into marriage in the first place? )
