I can so relate to the drop-off hurt. I felt the same thing when I went to pick up D19 at college. Dads should be there. They SHOULD be there. But, D19's wasn't.
Isn't it funny how we are feeling some of the same pain and our kids are sooo far apart in age??!
Smokey never saw D19's dorm room her freshman year. Her freshman year is over and he never even once saw her room or met her roommate. How sad is that??
But, moving forward...
What if???? What about the dads who DO this dropping off for little ones and picking up at college? What about the guys who do this stuff, but are still limited in their ability to be good husbands and good dads? What if our girls dodged a bullet of sorts.
They have, yours especially, have a chance to be raised by a strong mother who will find love at some point in another, worthwhile, strong, together guy. I don't know about you, but I'm not settling on the next one. He WILL be someone my girls can look up to.
My D19 has no plans to marry young so I'm thinking that right now, she really needs to see a strong mom who earns and takes care of herself MORE than she needs to see a dad drop her off/pick her up at school. Yes, it would be lovely and, yes, it's what I wanted for her...but, it wasn't my call.
She will still be ok. And, hopefully, she will learn to stand on her own two feet and meet someone who makes her life even better as opposed to having someone who tears her down the way Smokey did to me.
It's not too late Brook, it just "is what it is" for now. But, I get that it's still sad and painful.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
