1. I've let time go by for my emotions to settle. 2. I've gotten some affirmation both that my H is not alone in acting like this and there could be some who say it's not such a big deal...as well as that H was wrong to do that. Other people's opinions give perspective to mine, and I find that helpful. 3. Probably most important, the action of typing here to give concrete words to my feelings and objections. This helps me be just a little more aware of what I value and what I think, so I can be more prepared to verbalize it to my kids or to H in the moment. 4. Not sure I'll email him, this time, still sitting on it. There are bigger fish to fry.
Other news: I got a card and flowers for Mother's Day! From my sons! I was really curious to know if H had anything to do with it, but I think he did not. Or, well, did by modelling paying attention to his mom with them on Saturday. My S16 said Happy Mother's Day to me first thing in the morning, disappeared a while later with his friend who drives, and came in with two bunches of flowers and a card he got S14 to wake up and sign too. I expressed my delight at all of this. I believe S16 and his friend who drives came up with the idea and did all the execution. If H had anything to do with it, I'd thank him too, but I feel pretty sure he didn't.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
