IMO, you should not trust the WAW to honor any type of verbal agreement set regarding children, property, or finances.

She will verbally agree to almost anything to just get you out of the home. Some WAW's see that as some kind of goal b/c once he's out.....she thinks she can prevent him returning. Then she thinks she holds all the cards.

I know one man who honestly thought he was giving his W space for the weekend. Once he was out, then she wasted no time moving OM in. Quite a shock for the H.

In your stitch, it may be a relief to get out from under the emotional drain, but I suggest you have everything in legal order before making any such decision. Sometimes a physical S helps, sometime not. You decide by what "you" want.....and "where" you want to stay. Don't necessarily base on it whether or not is will bust a D. And for sure, do not leave b/c she wants it. She can't force you out. Don't leave by thinking it is "helping" her. This woman says she hasn't loved you in a very long time. That is what you need to bear in mind.

There is a reason she wants you to be the one to move to the lake house. WAS's are the most self-centered people in the world. And, I doubt she is suffering from a guilty conscious at this point. She is not the person you once knew and loved. And the WAW never thinks like the LBH believes she will.

She has not changed her position in a year. It could continue like this indefinitely. I am of the opinion that the LBH should be more proactive in his life, instead of just waiting to see whatever she decides for them. This is YOUR life, too.

I also believe the WAW should experience her life without H there to support, assist, rescue, protect her, or feed her cake. Otherwise, she has a fantasy of how wonderful her single life could be without him.

If there is another person involved, the sooner they are hit with reality, the better.

I suggest you see where you stand legally and with custody of your child. Do not discuss anything with her. Set up an account for the child support, and protect your other accounts from her access. You probably need to take some action over credit cards, etc. but get lawyer's advice.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!