With All My Hopes and Dreams

[Nettles]

soldier, it does sound like you need to remove the pressure, give W space and let her come to you. Oddly, in my sitch, PO may have helped because it meant no contact at all by me. But W still got info about me during this time, by things I did and didn't do. It also put me in the mindset that M was over. I hoped for a different outcome, but expected it to end in D.

Your W will get info about you as you give her space.

And patience is so hard to practice. But it is part of the path to regaining W's trust. First she must want to trust, then she must feel confident that she can trust. Neither phase is short. I know from my sitch that having the first does not resolve the second.

Where is this legally soldier? I went back and skimmed thread, but am not sure. Has D paperwork been filed? Any Ls involved?

Hang in there.