Is keeping the peace, part of "leaving the road back paved smoothly" concept?
I've been dim/dark and keeping texts short. My ex said I was being rude. My counselor says to remove myself from her life so that she has no one to blame but herself for her unhappiness. Seems like I'm the still reason by going dim. My IC also says my ex is addicted to making drama with me. She needs me to be the scapegoat for her unhappiness. How do I remove myself from that?
I'm trying not to enable her behavior yet by disengaging I'm still enabling her to blame shift. If I'm all nicey nice to her I feel like it shows that I approve of her behavior. I'm confused...
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
