My h is the. same way. Parents always provided a safety net. Never worried about money because someone bailed him out. I did too. The entire m. H actually told me he couldn't deposit his support yet "because he had to pay his bills." I can tell you that not responding is the best response in many of these circumstances.
I, too, have been blamed for 12 years of misery. And while I certainly had things I needed to fix, I'm just not that powerful:). However, with each day you realize you want to be the best you possible and that you cannot fix or change your h. You can show your children strength in adversity and that relationships take work-and the work of 2 people.
Try not to let what your h says or does affect you. It's a process, however you will notice that what used to make you furious may make you chuckle or elicit not even a second thought. Be grateful to be you.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
