I can relate to your entire post-most of us can. You must work on detachment to realize your h's gripes are his and his alone. I heard the "well I have to but new furniture" too. Internally, I was thinking " I would have liked to have a new couch but you never contributed. Suddenly, you've save enough to buy new furniture for your new life." After a while, the internal commentary subsides. My h told the kids he couldn't afford to get a deep clean for the interior of his car. You know who's problem that is? His. I tell the kids it's not their fault.
Just remind yourself to focus on you and your child. Enjoy your training. You can't change your h-only he can do that. Keep telling yourself that all decisions have consequences both good and bad. And again, you can only control your actions.
Try to live the best life you can. Truly take the high road and tell yourself each day you did the best you could and behave in a way that makes you proud of the way you conducted yourself for you and your child. Let your h deal with his issues. They are for him to own from start to finish.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
