Read as much as you can, it does help. Also search "why affairs end", very enlightening. But again, it takes a long time to come full circle.
As far as I know, h has been involved with ow in one way or another for about 2 1/2 years.
Accept that he is going to lie - thus, the believe nothing that they say. They are immature, selfish teenagers right now. You aren't going to be able to reason with him.
Hope you are doing well
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."