And, then talking about bills today and what he would need to pay if he stays here...it blew up.
I said he's more than welcome to stay, but needs to pay 1/2 the bills. He agreed. I mentioned what he owed me for 1/2 since the day he filed today...he exploded. Said I was stealing money from him and nickel and diming him to death. Then started in on the personal attacks.
I stopped him, told him either he pays the bills and doesn't start in on me, or he can move out. He says his apartment won't be ready until the first of June. I told him he should look into staying with a friend. I said it was not good for him to stay here for ME because he was toxic to me when he spoke to me that way. He then told me too bad, it was his house, too. I agreed, but then said we needed to setup a temp orders hearing again, and involve attorneys as this was just not working. Well, he knows if he does that, then he has to refill his retainer. He doesn't want to do that. I gave him a week to find another place to stay.
He went out to see a friend who was in town today. After he did, I went ahead and called the apartments he's moving to in order to ask if they had anything available NOW in a smaller size for a month, and was then going to ask if someone wanted a larger size but it wasn't ready for a month, if they could rent a smaller apartment for 30 days and then move.
Turns out, they have PLENTY of availability. I'm not going to bring this up, but it just reinforces that he's still more than willing to lie to me, whatever the cost and whatever his reasoning might be.
Either way, he's not going to speak to me that way any longer. Then he's mad because I will not let him take out jointly owned furniture to move. If he cannot sell his motorcycle (jointly owned) and pay off part of the joint credit card, then we would need to sell jointly owned assets in order to pay it off.
He admits he didn't think about what he would do AFTER filing, but now that he's realizing he has to buy furniture, crib, pay deposits and first month on top of paying support...he's really getting irritated.
It's not my problem, and I am not trying to punish him - but these are things he's going to have to face and deal with.
I also told him since he wants the D so bad, he now can either re-hire is L to file paperwork (he won't; doesn't want to pay another $4k in a retainer on top of all of what I listed above) or he can do it himself and work through my attorney.
Of all days to do this...my first Mothers Day. I just wanted a nice day with my kiddo. So much for that.
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
