I will suggest you listen to him, however there is a point that I will take a look at, your H seems to show regrets once you step back and then he says many words, but his actions dont seem consistent. When we are dbing we kind of always walk on eggshells, should I do this or say that like this so then he or she doesnt get to be upset or to forget me? Then if you check yourself you will see responses, you are willing to do whatever action it takes to restore the marriage, your spouse takes weak and inconsistent actions and basically we think we should face that in a different way....
No no and no, if your spouse wants to get back to the marriage he is gonna have to do way more than he is doing, just remember a few weeks ago....he went to a hotel with OW, I am not saying to be resentful or anything like that, is just that you want a stable and commited relationship and bread crumbs are not gonna make that happen.
You set boundaries without fear, and if he doesnt like them thats his problem, be clear about how would you like him to be with you and what conditions has to exist in order for you to consider a reconciliation, if one of those conditions fails just keep Gal and keep dbing untill that changes. Accept the way he is now and realize that its not on your hands to change him, he doesnt change enough because he doesnt touch bottom, he senses that you are still there in some way so he can continue to do whatever he wants but he does that more carefoully.
Do you want a half husband or do you want a full one?
Loose him, let him go totally and later on time will tell. Its scary but again at this point your H its not facing the reality that he lost completelly his W...
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
