I don't snoop on Facebook. This was brought to my attention by an ex-family member. I haven't said a thing on Facebook,
Hope you don't get too upset when I call BS on this. You have a long pattern of snooping on FB looking for dirt.
You have every right to call BS on me. I have had a bit of a track record. However, I haven't been snooping for a very long time. This was all brought to my attention from 3rd parties. You will just have to take my word on that. I have learned my lesson about snooping and the pain it causes. Unfortunately, this was thrown in my lap
Originally Posted By: MrCAS
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Originally Posted By: suckerpunch
...but I did have a few choice words for OM in person. I let it be known, that I will hold him accountable for his words on the internet.
Really? How did that work out for you? How are you going to hold him accountable? Seriously... I am genuinely interested in knowing If I was the OM and you said that to me, I would have said, "Oh gosh! I am sooooo scared!" This was an empty threat and it does make you look like a bully and a pretty silly one at that. .
If you were the OM CAS, I don't think you would be slandering my name or my family like a coward from behind a computer screen, and then coming to my home where you pretended to be nice. That's not the type of person you are, Cas. But... If you were the OM in this situation, you would have genuinely been scared. I don't think you would have called my bluff. He didn't, and I think I got my point across.
Originally Posted By: MrCAS
Originally Posted By: suckerpunch
I made it pretty clear what I think about his character, and told him that he was no longer allowed to be on my property. If he chooses to come with STBXW to pick up daughter, he can wait near the curb with the other trash. DON'T walk down my driveway
This just leaves me shaking my head. I only hope you didn't sound as whacked as I am imaging. I am really surprised he didn't start laughing at you. I would have. These are empty words designed to be hurtful and they only come across as angry diatribe by a STBXH. All your little rant did was solidify in his mind why your W left you in the first place.
I don't believe I sounded whacked out. I said it calmly and clearly. I simply made him aware that I would not tolerate him talking trash behind my back, and then allow him to come to my home. I am not really clear why that sounds so ridiculous. Cas seriously, If I started a thread on here and began badmouthing you and your family, would I still be welcome at your home? Perhaps I seem like a Neanderthal, but if you would have done that to me, then laughed in my face and sarcastically said, "ohhh gosh I am so scared", you probably would have had your ass handed to you.
Originally Posted By: MrCAS
As far as irony goes, I fail to see anything ironic in the encounter at all.
SP, I keep hoping and wishing that you would get it but you have not progressed much from being the angry bitter man you have been for the last year. You have the same issues... the same roadblocks... the same walls built up...
If you want a new life YOU have to do it. It will not magically appear. This isn't fantasyland, brother! This is real life and, yeah, it is hard. Why do you continue to make it even harder?
My sitch lasted almost six years. It wasn't until the last year that I "got it". I didn't want to be the guy I was. I didn't want the life I had so I did something about it.
I am divorced now and I am happy in my life. It has not turned out anything like I had hoped for, wished for, or desired. So what? I am happy with me and the work that I did to get to where I am.
You have to change YOU. Quit worrying about all the other stuff. Take that energy and use it to work on you to be a great Dad and man.
You are absolutely right, Cas, and I honestly appreciate every bit of knowledge and advice you share with me. I am slowly getting there, and every day seems to get a little better for me, maybe not for my sitch, but for me as a person. I am trying my best, but as you know, I am far from perfect.
