Dealing with an ongoing affair

[indigo1]

I agree the A has to be completely over before you can work on your M. You can continue to show a new and better you in the time leading up to that point. The hardest part for me was knowing my W was still chatting it up with OM while I was trying to be this new happier and understanding man to my W. Only when it stopped could we truly work on our M. Stay strong and just remember you only have control of yourself and not her. I know how hard it can be, but its all you can do.

I would not confront her on how she cannot just waltz back into the house. She does need to know that if OM is in the picture you are not.