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[adinva]

But see - we have been conditioned by him not to be bothered by what he says. I'm the one whose eyes have been opened. Leaving it to the boys to be bothered (unlikely) and then speak up for themselves (far less likely) means they may grow up to abuse their own children. Because they've seen nothing different, no one stopped it, and it must have been ok because it was shrugged off.

I definitely worry about looking like i'm overreacting, but i think i need to give H a label for what i see him doing.

I mean gosh. You cant get that visual out of your head if you look at s14's racecar that he built. That was wrong of h and whether he agrees or not someone should stop taking his buffoonery.