Dealing with an ongoing affair

[indigo1]

Sandi is spot on in everything. I recently went through all of this very same thing. W let me come back too soon and it was hell for the first couple months. At first W was still in contact with OM. Not in person just over the phone and text messages. I finally have to put my foot down and tell her if it continued I was gone. I had my W change her phone number, block OM, take all the blocks off of phone,ipad, computer. It has been a long and tough road getting over all of this. My W is extremely sorry for everything now. If you are like me you will know when it is truly over with OM. I could sense when it was going on and was never wrong. When you have been with someone long enough it is easy to tell when something is "off".

My W even admitted at first it was hard to let go of contact so be prepared for that. She now hates even the thought of OM and regrets everything she did. W is completely in love with me again so it can happen!! You need to set those boundaries and let her know you mean business! This will not be easy if she moves back. The hardest part was getting it out of my head long after the contact with OM ended. I still think about it and have thoughts pop into my head. This crap is not easy! If you really stick in there you can have a stronger M than ever. Just be prepared for a long tough road ahead if she comes back. I wish you the best of luck, it can be done!