Yesterday took kidlet and went out to GAL. He had said he was "going out of town" and never ended up going.
Kidlet took a nap, and as soon as she was up we were off. I had decided I was finally going to get house stuff done. It's going to be my house if we D, and he never wanted to do anything. So I went and got a tree for the backyard (plus the city gives us a credit for drought tolerant trees!) and ordered stone to be delivered to go around the flower beds. Got home, and told my H a friend from the military was going to come help me plant said tree.
He made his escape at that point. Any time my friends are over, he finds excuses to leave. This time, he said he was going to go put a deposit down on his apartment. Ok, sure. He said he had no way of getting money out of his new account as the card had not come in yet. I told him to transfer it to the joint account and take it out, then went about my business. He went off to do that, and I ran off on errands.
While I was at the stone place, I got a call from him. Didn't answer, and let it go to VM. He had just wanted to know what I was doing, and to tell me he was going back to the house. I got done at the stone place, went back to the house. Get there, and mention that said friend still hasn't come to help me plant the tree. It's at this point he decides he is going swimming. He also tells me that "the 2 bedroom I wanted is now not going to be ready until July, so I didn't put a deposit down. I thought about just getting a 1 bedroom for now, but I don't know."
I just said "ok, that's your call."
He left as my grandfather like friend was coming over to help plant the tree and hang the fan that has been waiting to be hung on the porch for almost a year. Said friend stayed a little while, and then kidlet and I packed up to head off to go swimming.
He texted me asking me to take pictures of her swimming. I didn't reply, and was just thinking about how I'd get pictures of her swimming if I were in the pool with her...but I digress. We get to my friends condo, and down to the pool. Another girl friend of mine shows up, and we proceed to attempt swimming. Water is a little cool, and the second the kiddo gets her feet wet she starts screeching. This is a nice, swanky pool in the middle of a big downtown area, so the patrons were giving us some looks. I just laughed, took her out and let her crawl around the flower beds eating dirt.
We were going to stay the night up there, but in my rush to get out before it was too late to go swimming, I left the pack and play at the sitters house next door (where kidlet goes during the week.) Get home, and he asks "what happened?" I just mention the issue about the pack and play, and then tell him she needs a bath. On his way to take her upstairs for a bath, he says he is watching a movie he bought on cable and asks if I want to watch it with him. Jaw drops, but ok.
He takes her and gives her a bath while I make a bottle. I get up, and help him with her bath. He helps me put lotion on her and get her PJ's on (always a struggle) and I put her to bed.
Afterwards, we start watching the movie. He's already 30 mins in to it, but pauses it and explains the entire backstory while it's going. Then, a little while later, he pauses to explain another situation that is occurring in the movie. He HATES explaining stuff in the middle of movies. I was never bad about asking, but if other people are watching a movie with us and start asking questions, it irritates him.
I got tired after the movie was up, and told him I was going to bed. I was surprised about the outcome of yesterday. The apartment one was pretty big. I figured he already paid for a place, signed etc. as he acted so sure that he had one. That was mind reading on my end.
OH, a late addition - he bought me something for mother's day. He got me a photography session for me and the little one. He said "I don't know why I never wanted to pay for it before, but I got you a photography session for mother's day."
Backstory on that - he's a cheapskate. Never wanted to get professional pictures of the kiddo done because of cost. I really really wanted some.
Anyhow, nothing today. If the kiddo wakes up soon, we will go to the zoo for mother's day. At the very least, I will take her to breakfast with me at a really cool little local cafe, then maybe hit up the artisans market to see what they have going on. I'm worn out from tree planting and running around yesterday. I also COULD finish the backsplash...all it needs is grout. That just requires me moving everything off of the counters.
Happy mothers day to all the moms out there!!!
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
