She has a big celebration in a couple of weeks for her work accomplishments. Her parents are going and assume I will be there. Neither of us have told them that we are separated and as it stands, that I may not be there with her.
Let her deal with it. Let her explain to her parents why you aren't there. She may choose the easy way out and lie, but you can't control what she tells them. If her mom contacts you and asks questions, be direct and honest and tell her you have not heard anything from your W since she left.
What we mean by not involving family is that you don't try to get them to run interference for you. But don't try to cover up by lying to them, either.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
