WAW...Again, Part II

[stumps]

"house rules" is my FIL's term, not mine. Although she's reigned things in quite a bit after dropping the bomb, the past few months my W had been going out a lot (3-4 nights a week) and staying out pretty late (usually getting home around the time the bars close). I've never tried to control my W or where she goes/what she does...never had any cause for concern regarding what she was up to other than having a good time with her friends. Never any trust issues. However, FIL has mentioned that if W moves into his house she needs to expect that her life is going to be "work, home, kids" for the most part because he and MIL don't plan on being her live-in babysitters (which is sort of how she had been treating me, although again this has recently changed for the better as I've been employing 180s/GAL) while she goes out after work every night. W apparently has a problem with this and has been trying to negotiate with her dad the terms of her living there (she has a friend who just divorced her husband and then moved into her mom's house, and now goes out and parties several times a
week while her mom watches her daughter. I think that's how W envisioned things going for her as well).

As far as moving so far away, it's the last thing I want to do, but we live in an extremely high-cost-of-living area (think along the terms of Manhattan NY as far as cost) and I just can't afford to stay close by. I had to start looking about 75miles out before I could find rentals I could afford by myself that weren't in really bad neighborhoods.