New Here and to MLC Sinking Fast

[AJM]

I suppose one question to ask - is it him that you're crying over?

I don't know this man, he is mean and horrible, so why do I cry over him? I wish I could let go a lot quicker, like right now.

Or is it part of the grieving the marriage/relationship and the shock at how different he is?

Calling to make sure your D remembers Mother's day, by itself, is not ominous. But your feelings are still very raw and it's not what you wanted nor expected, right?

No, you're not that horrible. This is his issue. There's no getting around that. But try not to make it yours by having expectations about how he'll act. Regardless of what he says, your expectations will keep you stuck.

Took me a long time to learn that. I hope it's a little faster for you

Don't be surprised as things come up that they invoke emotions you thought you dealt with. It's part of it. It happens to us all.

Happy Mother's day! Don't let his antics spoil the day for you.

AJ