I WASTED a YEAR of my precious life and my children's precious lives, asking questions that have NO satisfactory useful answers, labeling him as a "MLC" versus "WAH" (as if that matters) and trying to figure out what my h was thinking/feeling/doing,

instead of what I was going to do to be happy.

Just want to highlight this.

All the advice you need is right there.

Let go, live your life and let time do its work.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss