About the insights, ask yourself why you would want to bring them up. What is your motive?
Great question. When he left, he kept saying that I " just didn't understand". All he could hear from me was blame and anger. I want to reiterate and validate, now that things have calmed down a bit, that I have reflected and better understand my role and how my actions affected him and our relationship. Not necessarily to win him back, but to show that I'm moving forward and growing and not holding on to the anger I had a while ago.
Because even if we get a D, we will still have to communicate and collaborate a LOT over the next 18 years or so. I want him to see that I have a better sense of why we often misinterpreted each other. The one that came up the other day felt like a biggie to me. It was just this eye-opener of how we perceived the same situation so differently. I've been complaining that he could never see my perspective... but perhaps I didn't do a great job of understanding his either.
I understand what you'saying; I felt much the same way. But as we all know, talk is cheap.
His experiencing how you've changed will have much more effect. Keep working on you and he'll sense the changes over time. The new you will be evident. It may take a long time but that's OK.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
