Spoke to my counselor today and it was really good. She really thinks my ex has some strong borderline traits. It was really nice talking with her because she validated and agreed with a lot of my beliefs about my ex and also called me out on some stuff. It was nice to hear from her that my ex is really unstable right now. My counselor flat out laughed at what ob has been doing for my ex.
My counselor painted a really good picture of what's been happening with my ex. I've had a really good idea but it was nice that she filled in the blanks.
At this point, I have to tread carefully with how I behave around ex. She is sick and no matter how rational I am I will look like the bad guy.
Basically I have to treat her like an addict or alcoholic and lovingly detach. If she is to come out of this she really needs to crash and burn hard. If I remove myself from her life she can't blame me anymore for her unhappiness. Lets hope she figured this out for my son's sake.
My counselor totally thinks that it's not right that my ex is introducing s3 to ob so soon. She also gave me pointers on how to deal with borderline people. We'll see how well I do.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
