FROM JOB WR, I think your h is a lot like Bea's h. He can't let you go and he doesn't care what he has to do to keep you wrapped up in his drama.
I would have a nice chat w/my lawyer and I would advise him/her, that enough is enough and let's get this stuff in writing so that he doesn't continue to come back w/the same BS. All he thinks he's doing is paying you for support, not for his sons. Your sons don't fit into his sick equation at all.
I don't think I could be upset by this latest stuff...more like I would be furious w/him. You've tried being pleasant and civil w/him and yet, he still is snapping at your feet. More distance is required on this front and this may explain his comments about seeing his son whenever his son wants to and also he would get first dibs on his son's time.
I do understand your position and that's why you need to call h is bluff on this and go to court. It might make he realize that he can't control you or your life any longer. One quick question, why wasn't this letter sent to your lawyer or did your lawyer receive a copy of the letter too?
In the meantime, please try to take care of yourself. Monday will be here before you know it and then you'll have some answers then. (sorry Job they locked my previous thread before I could answer)
He's never going to let me go, I'll always be "his", even if he won't admit it to himself. It's the way of our relationship. I did send him a happy birthday message on Wednesday, he responded with a thank you, and then later that night got a cold (he had been starting off with a "Hi W" and ending with a "thank you" or something) that he was picking up the boys for dinner the next night....I said "sounds great. thanks for letting me know. Hope you have something nice planned for tonight" no response. Not really surprising as he's angry again. Picked up the boys for dinner and was back within two hours. S19 mentioned that during dinner H said he was taking S14 camping (next weekend is a long weekend here) with SIL#2 Haven't heard anything about this from H though.
S19 also mentioned that when H had S14 last weekend (I guess S14 was saying his brother was helping him with stuff) H said to tell S19 it's not for him to help him with stuff and that he's not a role model (or something to that affect) I told S19 to continue to help his brother where he could and if he can't to ask for help and if his dad has a problem with it too bad.
I've had a rather bad disgagreement with S19 this week, and because of it an argument with my parents and one of my BIL's, so I'm kinda really low. Sad. Can't seem to get my head back in the game......
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
