Heather, I'm glad to see that you accomplished a lot yesterday. It should make you feel good that you can see some of your hard work and how it turned out. I see you reserved a truck for today and that's great. You relied on yourself to get this done.
As for your mother going out w/your stepdad, that's her business and you shouldn't be angry about it. Maybe she forgot about the trip to pick your daughter up today. We all have lapses of memory from time to time and it's something we have to learn to get over and accept that we can't always be first w/others. You are angry because she didn't put you first and come to your rescue once again.
Why get angry w/your mother calling your sister? Weren't you going to do the same thing and analyze the conversation as well? You and your mother, both, need to leave your sister out of your arguments if she's not part of the equation. Both of you need to sit down, like adults, and face the issues and resolve them together.
Your mother has a life of her own and yes, she should put herself first and do what makes her happy. You left the nest a long time ago and now have to learn to live independently and not rely so heavily on her to bail you out whenever you hit a brick wall. Your mother has been there for you a number of times over the last year and it's time to start thinking about how you can begin relying on yourself and when you do need help on those rare occasions, she might be more apt to help and change her plans, etc. for you.
You need to find something to take that anger out on and then sit down and think about it...you are a grown woman who is intelligent and should be able to handle such things as getting your daughter to and from school. I realize it's an expense that you hadn't planned on, but your mother would have paid for doing it for you, i.e., gas and mileage being racked up on her vehicle.
You may get angry w/me, but I think once you've calmed down, you should apologize to your mother and have a civil chat about what transpired.
Travel safely today and please remember...you only have one mother in this world.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
