Had a good conversation with W as we were hanging out at the fire pit together last night. She started talking about her codependency, and said that it was something that she was committed to working on, and that as time went on she hoped I would see she was not only making progress but that the progress was real and permanent. Even more notable, W said her inspiration was seeing all of the changes that I've been making and her coming to believe that those changes of mine were real and permanent.
I'm not going to assume otherwise until she comes out and says that she's changing her mind about the D and explicitly states that she wants to work on the M, but this feels like real positive movement no matter what.
As an aside, just as we were about to call it a night and head inside, W's friend/next-door-neighbor came home from work and saw us out on the patio so she came over and sat and talked with us a bit. Afterward as she was heading back over to her house she remarked how much she loved hanging out with the two of us and that she hoped we never moved away so that she wouldn't have to give that up. That was really nice to hear, especially since she is primarily W's friend and I know she's aware of at least some of what's going between W and I if not the whole story.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
