He stayed at the house last night to watch the kiddo since I had to work late. I stayed downstairs while he watched TV upstairs. This morning, I spoke a little about bills and when he was going to move his things. He doesn't have an apartment until the beginning of next month. I said he could stay at the house but needed to pay half of the bills while there. Good idea or bad?
I need to turn the dimmer almost off though...I added a bunch of events (counseling appts, divorce support group meetings) in the evenijgs. He wanted to know what I was going to. The divorce coach I spoke with last time said because he is that insecure, it is probably best to tell him as not telling him makes him angry and push towards D more.
That said, I am really over being controlled and worried about him getting upset that I am going out and getting a life. As I mentioned in a previous post - I am also emotionally drained. Hes great at the guilt trip thing. And has crushed my self esteem when he's mad before, to the point I just stopped trying to make new friends. That is very wrong.
So dilemma...do I tell him what I am doing straight up, vaguely mention I am going to do things with "friends" or tell him the day he filed was the day I stopped telling him what I am doing?
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
