Bunches, Good for you . It's out in the open now. I think you'll find yourself in a much better position as time goes on. I wouldn't worry about the fact that she was upset when you let her know that you were aware of her A- it seems all waywards get upset.
Hi Mr. Bond, I think what you're referring to is what I call "exposing" of the A. I do agree with you and others that I don't think that's the best approach (the exception being letting the other spouse know). I was simply referring to those that advocate not having an honest conversation with your spouse about their A and where your boundaries are. I also feel that one should work on improving oneself (marital strife or not), I was just making the point that it should be PART of a total strategy, not the strategy itself.
. It's out in the open now. I think you'll find yourself in a much better position as time goes on. I wouldn't worry about the fact that she was upset when you let her know that you were aware of her A- it seems all waywards get upset. 