I am trying to detach because I know it's what is best for me and the situation...He just texted me about buying a few items for himself but why do that if he said no contact until tomorrow? Again I need to just take it a face value and not speculate or assume, it just is a text nothing more. Give him space, keep a PMA and keep working on GAL. I am also packing up my stuff as our agreement was that he has the house for when his 3 kids come to visit and me and my 3 kids move in with my mom until a few months after the divorce is final so I can save money for an apartment. We are going to file the divorce ourselves to save money and we agree on how we are dividing things. My H wants to file at the end of July so with him retiring from the military, there is less hassle to do it before he is officially retired. I do realize that it is going to happen as my H still feels no connection to me and he feels that the divorce is needed for him. I can't change his mind on that nor can I stay attached to my marriage and memories as it will not be back and it will only hold me back.
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
I feel like time has run out for my DB as it is May already and the end of July is fast approaching. I am tired of this roller coaster and at times just want it to be done and resign myself to the divorce
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
He asked to meet at Starbucks to talk and I am trying not to expect the worst as the worst has been the BD so far. I am trying to fake it till I make it with PMA but I am panicking inside and I want to ask him what it is about. ..help
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
Mr.Bond, I ended up going and he apologized for how he reacted yesterday and it ended on a positive note. I don't jump at every request he makes. There have been times when I don't accept invitations to meet up and I don't contact him first. My question is he has been very open about spending more time with me like going for rides or dinner and he asked me to be the same way with him. Should I not be doing that at all?
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
I packed up more of my stuff from my room and also took down my pictures of the kids and packed those as well. I had been waiting to do that since before I didn't want to upset my H and ruin any chances of a R but I figured I might as well do it as we are to move out in early June and I can't bury my head or pretend that the D isn't happening. He has gone quiet again but it is not for me to speculate/assume the who, what or why of his actions and he is on his own journey...I'm reminding myself of that an reciting the Serenity prayer in my head. Going to the movies with a friend tonight so that will be good
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
I have tried to do the LRT not chasing, pleading or bringing up OR.I have continued to GAL and my H started to contact me more, asking to see me however he still brings up the D and says he is trying to be my friend. I am confused because he asks for hugs goodbye, even today after he knew I was home sick, he stopped by and held me for a little while.This was a total shock to me. Am I doing better? I do not see the anger as much nor feel the distance from him.
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
Vossy- Not TMI for me because I agree with you now that I look back at the past 2.5 months since my H moved out to stay with his best friend. I am a work in progress and need to keep moving forward. I need to make myself into the best I can. Unfortunately, my stress eating has gotten out of hand and I have gained almost 5 pounds. I lost 30 lbs over a year ago and I don't want to gain it back. So much work I need to do for myself and for my children too.
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
Had an awful day with my kids in the morning, basically their rooms were trashed and chores were not done from the night before. I was sick yesterday so I thought they would help me out a bit more but that seems too much. D is 17 , S is 16 and youngest S is 12. I just need to get them out of the habit of thinking mom will be too tired and let it go but not anymore. Working full time and single mom is difficult and my kids do not grasp all that I am juggling. I am working on this with them and also quality time...Now with the D, I ser so much work that I have to do for myself and on my kids. On the plus side, I am getting my tattoo tomorrow and I am anxious!! Work is going good so far too!
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
Sometimes the interaction with my H feels like dating. He came to my tattoo appointment and sat there with me while I got my right side tattooed. We hug,kiss and spend time together. We also flirt but we are still heading to a divorce. Am I doing something wrong?
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
