KML is offering you some good advice. She is a wise lady.
I had a sampling of what was to come also. My H had a bit of a freakout when we had our first child, married for about 10 years, and it continued for some years. We separated, almost divorced and, then, had a few more good years together before he went all apeshid into MLC.
This stuff isn't for the faint-hearted. It's brutal, gut-wrenching stuff. I would no more expose my children to who my H has become, in hindsight, than I would put them in a room full of black mambas.
Their world has been turned upside down. My youngest daughter in on the Autism Spectrum and has, now, to deal with her MIA dad in addition to her disability.
My guy was a great guy too. Everyone loved him and those closest to him can't believe the things he has done. Those who don't know the details wouldn't believe it. He was the guy everyone loved.
This same man almost drove us into foreclosure when he stopped paying me support. At this same time, he took the OW on vacation.
Read the threads, educate yourself about MLC.Just think this through carefully.
Take Care,
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
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